It’s been a long time…

I has been a very long time since I posted here. The real reason is that I no longer feel the need to vent. For some of you guys that are going through the same things, yes it’s very frustrating. I cant tell you what to do. I can tell you that in most cases as in mine the issue really isnt with me. I had to learn to stop beating myself up, for feeling like I was a horrible lover for not being able to turn my wife on. What I’ve noticed over the years is that the issues with our partners are deep rooted from the past. We love them so we want to try and fix the issue, take the pain away. At the same time there are needs that we have and get frustrated when that hunger isnt being met. i’ve come to the resolve that no matter how much I talk to my wife about what I want. Things wont change. Do I wish that my wife acted liked a girlfriend in the past where I knew exactly what it would take to turn her on and when I did she was ready to go. Sure, I’m I going to get it? No, and I’ve decided to live with that. It’s so easy for people to get rid of the other partner that isnt doing what they would like or want. I made a choice when I said those words that no matter how hard things got I would still stick it out. Honestly I think most guys would do the same.

Is it nice when someone else flirts with you? Sure it is. It makes you realize that it isn’t you that is the problem. It boosts your ego. At the same time you realize that in the long run you would just be trading one womans issues for another. You wouldn’t be gaining that sex vixen you so longed within your lover. If you do find her, then you may want to look behind her and everything else she is bringing along.

I’m glad that after so long this blog still gives some solace to men knowing that they aren’t alone. That you have a voice and how I deal with the situation. So, keep the comments coming, there is someone out there to read them and for you to understand your not alone.

 

FH

Update

I know it’s been some time since my last update and the reason for that is, not that much has changed I’ve just gotten over being upset. As someone just commented on another post of mine. After so much time goes by you just kinda give up. You want things to be different but have come to the resolve that no matter how hard you try and make things different this is how they are going to be. Some would get a divorce, others cheat to find what they need. Then there are those of us that just hang out. I guess you could say we really love the women in our lives despite not getting what we want from them. Is this settling? I don’t know. I can think of girl friends past and wish my wife would be more like them sexually. I got damaged goods and while that isnt her fault it’s the choice I’ve made to stick with her good or bad. So, here I am and here I’ll be. Either until she changes or the sexual hunger that I have finally goes away.

Rubbing One Out and Being Bored

Have you ever gotten tired of playing with yourself? You just get to a point where you’ve done it so much that your bored of yourself, LOL. Following up on my last post it seems if if my wife is in the “I’m not in the mood phase”.

Insanity – Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

So, what do you do? Change hands? Look at something different?

It Begins Again…

It seems that the “not wanting to have sex” is a type of cycle. After the kids go to bed, lights are off and we are in the room I’m looking to make love to my wife. Now, after this long she knows this. She knows I look forward to it on the weekends. So, she waits “doesnt think about it” until right before I’m ready to start my approach. Shot down again. I told her when I was working away from home and only there on the weekends things were great. I also mentioned that when we did make love more often that we fought less and if we did it was very minor and over in a few minutes. So, what that tell us kids? Get laid more and your happier!

We All Have a Trigger..Right?

There is something inherit to all of us. A trigger that will get you all hot and bothered, horny, ready to bump uglies what ever you might call it. Mine is when I get kissed, slightly bit on the neck and ears, my other spot is I like for my nips to be licked and sucked. I used to take pride, it was even a game to me to try and find out what it was with the girl I was with at the time. Once I knew what it was I could easily use it to get this other person horny at will. I used to love to get someone horny in a place where they wouldnt expect it, say walking through the mall (if it was a kiss or slight nibble of the neck). This would get them horny but they were constrained by society and moral laws. My wife, even after 12 years is still a mystery to me. One thing will work once or twice but not every time. I ask her and she tells me do this….I do that and get a good reaction then. I do the same thing next time and nothing, or even a push away. Why does that happen?

I would love to know what some of your triggers or that one button is?

30 Days of Sex

I happen to read that a wife in the UK suggested to her husband that they have sex daily for 30 days. Yes, a wife made the suggestion. I must preclude and also say that they dont have any kids to interfere with their escapades either. They start off well towards the middle there were a few hiccups but overall out of 30 days they made love for 25 of them. I made this suggestion to my wife as a joke and I got back “Ok, lets give it a shot..” This cracks me up, my wife has a tendency to not feel well on a regular basis, lets see how this goes when she doesnt feel like giving up the booty but has agreed to do the deed, and not just lay there either. We, havent started yet as Aunt flow is about to rear her ugly head next week, we’ll start after that and see what happens.

I still havent gotten the stockings yet and I really dont know why. I think she just flat our refuses now..anyways.